Afterlife Phil G shares his mailbag to recognize contact from life after death: “I lost my father, I sense him near, but my thoughts are so mixed up I can’t actually ‘connect’ with him…” writes Lisa from the UK.
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Afterlife Phil G shares his mailbag to help Lisa from Britain to connect with her father in the Afterlife: “I lost my father, I sense him near, but my thoughts are so mixed up I can’t actually know if it’s his thoughts or mine…”
Shock and denial
“Afterlife Phil G” answers questions on Contacting the Afterlife and this one from England asks” “My Mum passed away when I was 6. I was living with my Nanna then, and I want to know if she is okay. Am I to blame? I want to know she is at peace”
Grief and loss is a broad category that encompasses death and dying, grief recovery, grief resources and every type of loss imaginable. From losing a loved one to losing your job, grief and loss includes a variety of dimensions that affect each and every one of us in our daily lives.
Back in my practice days I saw many individuals who were suffering the effects of grief and loss after having lost a close loved one. This could include a friend, spouse, child, partner, parent or other relative who had passed on suddenly due to illness or accident. Occasionally I was presented with a couple where one of them had recently received a terminal illness diagnosis and only had months to live. All of these situations were particularly traumatic in their own way.
The stages of Grief Recovery are not the same as Kubler-Ross’ Stages of Death and Dying. After working with terminally ill individuals for several years she came up with 1) denial, 2) anger, 3) bargaining, 4) depression and 5) acceptance as typical reactions to the diagnosis. These have nothing to do with the grief recovery process even though they are often confused as such. In this article I aim to clearify what the grief recovery stages truly are.
Bereavement has a definite beginning but no predictable end. How you manage your bereavement recovery will determine how long it takes to regain your former composure. Avoiding, or repressing the feelings of sadness and the need to cry will sabotage your recovery efforts.
Grief recovery can be quite manageable if you follow a straighforward program that accounts for all the emotional variations encountered in the experience of losing a loved one. Specific actions need to be detailed to address these stressful components as you can easily be distracted by powerful emotional reactions. Recovering from grief can proceed in a straightforward fashion if you follow the suggestions outlined below.